I'm working on a new site that, along with advice and resources, will have some jokes and comments that'll take shots at a specific group of men: ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands. This might mistakenly give the impression that it's a man-hating website. To that I say, au contraire, mon frere!
In the Breakup Coach's circle (aka the Breakup Babes) we LOVE men. We have wonderful fathers, brothers, sons, friends--some of us have great boyfriends and husbands too. Our intention with this site is to provide a safe and fun place to vent and do what we need to do to get over relationships that are ending, so everyone can move on.
It’s good for women because it lets us work through our anger and move on to a better, happier place. It’s better for the men who will love us in the future (let’s get this stuff out now so the next guy doesn’t have to pay for our past struggles). It’s better for all the dads, brothers, and male friends who love us right now but who don’t have any idea what to do or say when we burst into tears for the tenth time in front of them; they can send us here!
Heck, it's even better for the ex’s who are no longer really in our lives (you know, the ones we’re making fun of?). If we’re venting about them, making jokes at their expense and drawing doodles on their pictures in a supportive, structured environment we’re a whole lot less likely to drunk dial them or key their car (not that any Breakup Babe would ever, EVER do anything like that. They're WAAAY too classy and high-road for that, but they might THINK about it once in a while)
I did make the choice to gear the new site toward women for now to provide focus and a stronger sense of community, though I'll continue to work with men individually and I'll still answer guys' questions on my advice column. Down the line I'd like to create a brother site to the Breakup Babes. So no, we don't hate men. Some readers of this blog and supporters of The Breakup Coach are guys. And just like in that deodorant commercial, a lot of the stuff on the new site will work for a man even though it's made for a woman. So guys, just ignore those jokes and embrace your innner Babe.
Here's to all the good guys,
The Breakup Coach
Copyright 2009 by Sasha Carr